It could be worse...

Most of us think in that direction when we go through something difficult. We are told to believe that everything happens for a reason..

If things go wrong we are consoled that it could be worse..

One day I was talking to one of my dear friend about my experience in Children's hospital. "S" and I work in the same company and despite the BIG difference in our positions in company we share the same "PDD-NOS" in life. That makes us forget the Job and money and talk about our kids and other stuff we are going through..

So when I met "S" for a lunch. He told me about one of his junior in college died of cancer and she had a year old baby who is autistic. the way he told me I would never forget the tone of "here is the kicker..." I told him how grateful we should be that our kids are verbal and getting help, things could be worse for us and right away he says - No, It never gives me peace thinking it could be worse.. I would never take it as an answer.

It got me thinking how differently we deal with the same situation. There are days when I cry and feel and question - Why me, why only me and there are days when I feel that it could be worse. But "S" is also right, It never answers the question we have. It never consoles him and somehow the "it could be worse" never works for many of us..