I love celebrations; they don’t have to be over the top but something to mark the occasion. I have been a no-gift, no-flower woman, which helped Mr. Husband tremendously. Now I welcome gifts and flowers, but he refuses to change.
On our first anniversary, my brother-in-law, sister-in-law, and 2-year-old niece joined us. Their anniversary falls a day before ours, so we decided to go to Mahabaleshwar, a short trip from Pune, where we lived at the time, for a double celebration. Unfortunately our niece got an ear infection that day and cried the whole night. Mr. Husband and I sat in the next room helpless. We came back to Pune very next day. That was the beginning of anniversary celebrations for us.
We have had a pretty good life together celebrating in our own way but we never did anything big for our anniversaries or birthdays. For my 40th our friends hosted a small get-together. Our 25th was in the middle of Covid, as was Ashish’s 50th. For both of these, a few close friends joined us, and we ate outside in our backyard. Things were a little better for my 50th, and I had a few small celebrations with friends.
Our 30th anniversary was a completely different story. It fell on a Sunday which was also Father’s day. On Saturday, we went out with the Desi Moms Network group for lunch, and a friend invited us for dinner. Sunday morning started with some drinks, snacks, and cake with his volleyball group for father’s day celebration. By the afternoon, we needed a nap, and when I woke up, I was too full and lazy to go out for dinner. For years, this was my rule – No cooking or homemade food on special days. I guess I am getting older. Instead of going out we got the cars cleaned, and Mr. Husband cooked. We sat on the deck for a simple dinner by him.
Evening was all about both of us taking turns to play our favorite ghazals from our youth for a long time. This was so much fun.
So no dressing up, no sarees, no flowers or fancy food, we found the days joy in cleaning the cars, home cooked meal and ghazals . I guess celebration could mean reliving the memories, spending time and doing the things together.
A beautiful Banarasi for a meet for board of directors.
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