Some days, some conversations are so stimulating that you have to write about it. Today was one of those days. I was walking with two of the friends I have known for quite a long time. We don’t meet often, but we have been in each other’s orbit for almost 25 years. Whenever we meet, talking about India, politics, and movies is so common.
We speak different languages, we come from different backgrounds, we come from different thought processes. Respecting and appreciating each other is the biggest connection we need in friendship. I definitely respect and value them for who they are as persons.
While talking, so many things come up — our kids, our lives, our parents' lives, and our children’s lives. How we are very happy with our life, but do we really want our kids to live the same life? I am the mother of two boys, they both have daughters, and it was very interesting. While they were very happy with the way life turned out for them, they absolutely want something different and better for their daughters.
They want their daughters to have financial independence, more involved partners, and to carry less of the burden of household work. We all agreed that the kids definitely know what makes them happy, what they want in life, and they absolutely know what they don’t want in life.
We reflected on how, in our time, being from a well-off family and having a stable job were enough for parents to consider someone a suitable groom. No one really asked about values, interests, or long-term goals or what anybody wanted out of their life partner. There was no opportunity to get to know each other better or freedom to spend some time alone and ask questions. Truthfully, we didn’t even know what questions to ask back then.
Marriage meant something else for our parents. It is something for us, and it will have an entirely different meaning for our children.
A Tussar for an event — the organization I sit on the board of.
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