Identity - who are you?

What is identity for you? Do you ever think about who are you as a person? How do you define or explain yourself. Is it a question my mother’s generation ever asked?

Often get togethers start with introductions first and to no-one’s surprise everyone says the same-name, town here in US , in India, kids, jobs. With some nudging, hobbies and interests come next. But usually people don’t talk about value, pet peeves, dreams or likes and dislikes. 

Women who are financially independent still struggle to talk about the woman within, worry about being judged but it is mind boggling to meet someone who really knows their boundaries and strengths. It’s not about the 30 second elevator speech, not interview or the accomplishments, it is about what makes them who they are.

First born’s visits home are such fun for these very reasons . Mr. Husband wouldn’t engage in these complicated conversations , live and let live is his mantra.  He doesn’t need too many things in life. He doesn’t clutter his mind. Ajey is my window to the young world and we talk about many things and issues. This afternoon he was explaining how he is enjoying being “missing” from the social media because he didn’t want social media presence to define his identity. Didn’t want to do the cool stuff publicly for that very reason. For him identity means something else at this point in his life.

My concept of a village is based on this - meet and open up and let people enter your world, break those walls and learn something from everyone, connect and do the same for others.

In another meet up it was very interesting to see ladies opening up to someone they had never met in person before.  8 of us came together for more than 3 hours , chit chatted, ate and opened our hearts to someone new, someone new and fresh and willing to accommodate them as they are. I know all of them personally, how they define themselves to some new people that will be another story.

What about you? What defines you, makes you tick? Who is the real “you”?

A Gorgette banrasi saree to enjoy the evening with some amazing women.

The questions were- :)

- What do you value in a friendship? Talk about some incidents.

- One fav dinner guest - dead or live - what would you talk to the person

- Define your perfect day :) 

- Are you stuck somewhere? Work, personal life, passion, are you doing something about it? 

- Do you know when you need help and can you ask for it? 

Perfect end of a long weekend, a quick trip to Cape cod to watch the sunset, I needed the calm and quiet for a change.