Expectation of family legacy - what is your story?

 Last night some of us met in a beautiful home. I met the host 21 yrs ago just out of no where. Curtsy internet groups. We remained in touch casually but didn’t meet often. Last night I met their few friends for the first time celebrating their new home. Meeting new people is exciting , a chance to create fresh memories and new starts. Sometime you come home with thoughts of people and food nothing else. Sometime these meets stir some more. 

It was an interesting crowd, they all belonged to one particular state of India, I was a woman out of their circle except my maiden name. They all knew each other, similar ages and background.  I throughly enjoy the conversations and got a chance to eavesdrops the conversation from other side of the room. Yes, the men were busy taking about politics and current affairs. Few things never change in Indian get together :) Us ladies were happy leaving world problems to the men and enjoyed simple conversation about Sarees, our childhood, memories of schools and colleges, festivals and familes back home. 

One of them had a very interesting upbringing. A very educated and activist family with a history of strong women. Her grandma was a lawyer and very much involve in Politics when Indira Gandhi was the prime minister of India. But for me the most fascinating story was the way her great-grand ma suggested her daughter to marry someone of her choice when her father passed away. The family would have married the girl off to any random person to have control over property and to get over the “wedding of a girl” responsibility. The father was a visionary and made his daughter independent and strong but his untimely death made family situation difficult. The grandma wrote the man her father once admired and asked him to take her away.They got married (eloped) in 1946. Imagine this happening in that time in India in 40s and 50s. 

I came back home feeling how amazing it was to hear something like that. I so wish I had an opportunity to meet the grandma, a woman beyond her time. How often a simple dinner stirs the desire to meet people you would have never known about. 

What is your fav get together story? 

A blue no Zari resham banarsi for the dinner  

The conversations there reminded me of my fav breakfast, sweet yogurt with Paratha, The host had perfect home made yogurt. They didn't only feed me dinner but took care of next morning breakfast too